We could take note that it is usually easier to love people who are
far away than the closest ones.
One of the main difference seems to lie in the quality of waiting.
We usually establish intimate relationships with the secret hope to be at last really happy.
Disappointment, anger, frustration come back when we see that we cannot obtain what we are looking for.
Love which is not altered by the habit of asking and demanding brings a special quality of light, silence, vacuity and transparency.
If we could transpose this quality of being to the ordinary life, there will be a real transformation of the nature of relationships.
The beggar is a hidden king.
When waiting and demanding vanish, fullness arises.
From the Spiramed Internet Forum, September 1996